Success or failure is in our own hands. No one arrives in life perfect.
The way we avoid derailing ourselves is by seeing through the illusions we create, knowing our shortcomings and recognizing the need to change or manage around our flaws.
Studies have shown that there are four main reasons people don’t attain personal power, or achieve less than the full measure of success they desire.
It is not because they lack intellectual horsepower.
It is not because they fail to master the skills required for the job, not because of some technical deficiency.
It is because of certain human tendencies, such as:
This insensitivity to other people works against life-affirming cooperation. Arrogance is a subtle form of emotional or social suicide. At the very least, its effects are similar.
How to overcome Arrogance:
Choosing the side of an issue by looking at who is on the other side.
How to stop political game-playing:
Aggression: It is not the fundamental basis of personal power. People with aggressive behavior risk paying a high price. The cost is measured in terms of damaged egos and the inability to create and sustain mutually fulfilling social, family, and business relationships.
Contrary to appearances, the behavior of aggressive people does not come out of supreme confidence in a compelling inner strength. Rather, it arises from a secret fear that they have none and that if they let up they will lose control.
If aggression is the poison, the antidote is assertiveness. Assertiveness means a way of behaving that permits us to feel good about ourselves and others, and get what we want out of life. Three ways to assert yourself:
Unmanaged anger. Instead of blowing your anger off at the appropriate time and being done with it, we let it build up a head of steam. Consequently we end up making bad decisions simply to get past the problems.
Far more damaging to the relationship is the unmanaged anger.
Controlled anger focuses on events (ie: what happened), and has a beginning, middle, and an end. Unmanaged anger focuses on people, and produces devastating wounds intended to call a person’s self-worth into question.
How to stop unmanaged anger:
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